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I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 2:30 pm
by Inrecovery
Hi. I'm 24 years old and I still havent got much idea as to what I want to do in my life, which really upsets me. Atm I'm not studying or working and I feel like I have no purpose or routine. I want to feel like I'm being useful on this earth and it would be nice to find some enjoyment in something. I have thought about college and doing an access course or the open university. I really don't know if now is the right time or not and I don't know if it would be suited to me.

I've tried to go back to college/uni in the past and it's never worked out.

One day I'd like to be working but I dont know what sort of job.

Not only does my mental health hold me back but I feel lost and I worry I'll be stuck forever.

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 2:34 pm
by Spork.
To be honest, I think most people struggle to find something they want to do for the rest of their life. 24 is still pretty young to have all of that worked out. Would it be possible to do a little volunteering work in your area? You could keeps the days/hours minimal and build up and also get a feel for something before you decided to put full time hours and money in to something like university.

I'm sure others will have more ideas!

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 2:55 pm
by Enthused
Hey I can relate to this so so much. I think volunteering is a good shout, you can set your own hours and you'll be making a difference. You could also Google things you're interested in and there might be groups of people that meet up and discuss similar interests?

There is a volunteer service where you can walk people's dogs, would something like that be worth a look?

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 3:04 pm
by Inrecovery
Thanks so much for your replies. Volunteering sounds okay but I have no idea what I could do. I'm rubbish at everything. I do love animals though. Just not sure I've got the confidence to do anything. I feel like I can't help others because I can't even help myself or look after myself. I have tried googling things in my area but there doesn't seem to be much.

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 6:51 pm
by Muir
Maybe start small? Even like offering to go for groceries for elderly neighbors (particularly if it snows). That's something you can do when you feel able, and it might help you build your confidence then to do something bigger.

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 7:18 pm
by fredraw
Don't feel that the step you take next has to be part of a grand plan. Muir's advice is good. Start small and explore from there. One of the good things about where you are now is that life doesn't have to have a grand script where you follow a path that you feel is expected of you.

The first thing I notice and it can only be a first impression, but written word at least you come across well and can get your ideas across. That's a good starting point.

I'm not a experienced as some about what you can do in relation to building your confidence, hopefully someone else may have some thoughts. I like the idea of volunteering. Even if that is not animals, maybe a charity shop or to provide some companionship in a hospital or old people's home. It's not something I have looked into. Do you have someone that you can talk to about that? You probably have more to offer than you can begin to believe at the moment.

To give you some insight, I have routine and job, but I can honestly say at the age of fifty something I haven't really worked out what I want to do with my life. It will come to me eventually.

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 8:00 pm
by Inrecovery
Thank you. Yeah it's just hard when I can't even look after myself. I don't wanna do anything that could be depressing or triggering either. I guess I have support workers to talk about that with and hopefully they'd be able to come with me. Someone suggested to me an animal rescue. Maybe I'll consider that but I don't know yet.

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 8:15 pm
by fredraw
Sounds good. It is great to look to the future and it seems you are thinking along the right lines, just don't put too much pressure on yourself and treat yourself kindly.

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 11:25 pm
by Inrecovery
Thanks. I just hope things change for me soon. I'm so fed up.

Re: I don't know what I want to do with my life.

Posted: Wed Dec 19, 2018 11:34 pm
by Spork.
You've had a lot of big changes recently. That would be enough to unsettle anybody. One foot in front of the other and one thing at a time. You have therapy options and medication discussions to work through too, you don't need to be magically able to work right this second.